APPLE CIDER! Fresh From the Farm . . .
“As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” – Song of Solomon 2:3
I LIKE my husband; I don’t just love him. I think he is hilarious, clever, and really cool. On December 31, 2015 we will have been together 13 years, and I’ve never been bored with him once. Just when I think I have him figured out, I don’t. He is constantly changing in his interests, knowledge, and tastes. He allows me to see the world differently, and everything seems accessible when I’m with him.
When we were dating I found myself daydreaming of him a lot, like all day. There was a time we missed each other so much we agreed to meet at a closed ice cream shop at midnight just to sit together for an hour. Imagine yourself hiking through the thick trees in the woods, stepping over the scratchy undergrowth on the trail, until you come to an opening in the tree canopy where stands a luscious fruit tree in the middle of nowhere. He is my “apple tree among the trees of the forest”. He stands out differently, has something to offer nobody else can, and the only one I want. His shadow protects me and his fruit provides for me.
Nate and I first met in our college chemistry class; yes, for real. I was immediately drawn to him by his great smile. And when class ended, naturally, I appeared on his door step to remind him he had forgotten to ask me out! He was very grateful for the reminder. 🙂 And we’ve been together ever since.
But of course this post isn’t about Nate, neither is the verse above about any boyfriend. Like everything in the Bible, this verse is about Christ. Do you think about Christ like the writer in Song of Solomon? Do you meditate on His goodness and provision? Is He your “apple tree” compared to what the world has to offer? Even if you are a seasoned Christian, sometimes the answer is “no”.
We get sucked into the distractions of life and can feel our relationship with God drifting further away. Maybe you never felt that way or don’t understand how such sensual words can be spoken about the God of the Bible (that used to be me, too). You are thankful that’s He’s your Savior, but you’ve never known Him as the Lover of your soul. So how do you get that relationship with Christ?
Go back to chemistry class . . . notice Him. Find out His name and how He got it. Appear on His doorstep so He can spend time with you. Offer to meet in the middle of the night. Meet with His family (aka other Christians). Study Him and meditate on His goodness and provision. He already knows you, but there is so much to learn about Him! Jesus NEVER gets boring, EVER! And if you find that He has, it’s because you’ve forgotten to ask Him out!
“Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John 4:8, ESV
If you know God, you will love God. And LIKE Him!! There is so much to learn about what and how He thinks. Find out what God thinks about you and what He wants from your life. Date Christ, get to know Him, and you may find yourself daydreaming about how amazing He is. Because if you are a Christian, Christ is your husband.
“ . . . as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.” –Isaiah 62:5, ESV
Spend time in prayer (and not just asking for things that you want, but thanking God for who He is). Btw, you can pray while you do almost anything. If you really can’t read the Bible daily, consider listening to sermons in your car, at work, or while you make dinner (I’m partial to Pastor Matt Chandler; downloadable). Surround yourself with people who stir your affection for God, not do the opposite by bringing you down (i.e. don’t be friends with people who hate your husband). Attend a weekly Bible study with people who will hold you accountable(Sunday mornings are just not enough to satiate). I personally meet with a friend at 5:15am weekly for Bible memorization, prayer, and accountability (yep, if early works than just do it!). If you do have time to read, start a book about something you have always wanted to learn about God. I’m currently reading The Story of Christian Theology. And it is SO GOOD! I can’t NOT talk about it with people; Christ is too amazing!
So if you have found your marriage to Christ is getting dull, just go back to the beginning. Like any marriage, it takes time and effort, but He is the “apple tree among the trees of the forest.” Take delight in His shadow and provision. Not only will his fruit leave you satisfied, but it’s so, so sweet.